
Making Conversation
Seven Essential Elements of Meaningful Communication
By Fred Dust
Published 01/2021
About the Author
Fred Dust, formerly a Senior Partner and Global Managing Director at IDEO, is a renowned expert in human-centered design and networked innovation. With a rich background in architecture and extensive experience working with independent artists and major art organizations, Dust has helped organizations in media, finance, retail, and health navigate disruption caused by changes in consumer behavior, social trends, economic pressures, and new technology. He currently chairs the board of Parsons and sits on the boards of the New School, NPR, and the Sundance Institute.
Main Idea
Making Conversation by Fred Dust addresses the decline in the quality of our conversations despite the technological ease of communication. Dust provides a framework for meaningful and effective conversations, focusing on overcoming the challenges and bridging the gaps between individuals in our personal, professional, and societal lives. Through seven essential elements, Dust teaches readers how to conduct conversations that matter, ultimately aiming to change lives and the world.
Table of Contents
- Introduction
- Conversations that Matter
- Element One: Commitment
- Element Two: Creative Listening
- Element Three: Clarity
- Element Four: Context
- Element Five: Constraints
- Element Six: Change
- Element Seven: Create
- Conclusion
Conversations that Matter
Fred Dust begins by distinguishing between everyday conversations and those that have the potential to drive significant change. Conversations that matter often involve differences of opinion, feel difficult, and aim for positive outcomes. Dust emphasizes the need for intentionality and structure in these conversations to ensure they are productive and meaningful.
Element One: Commitment
Commitment involves dedicating oneself to the conversation and the people involved, rather than clinging to personal beliefs and biases. Dust describes this as an act of courage and optimism, requiring a shift from steadfast adherence to one’s values to a commitment to exploration and community.
"A creative conversation is about choosing to hold your existing beliefs more lightly; it's about committing to exploration and to staying engaged with a set of people that will help you in that exploration." - Fred Dust
fostering commitment include:
- Encouraging openness and willingness to explore different perspectives.
- Building a sense of community and shared purpose among participants.
- Practicing letting go of personal biases and remaining open to new ideas.
Element Two: Creative Listening
Creative listening transforms the act of listening into a generative and joyful experience. Dust highlights the importance of active, attentive listening, which can make speakers feel understood and valued. This type of listening goes beyond hearing words; it involves engaging with the speaker’s emotions and intentions.
"Listening can be practiced to become something we do not from a sense of duty but from a mode of joyful discovery." - Fred Dust
Ways to practice creative listening include:
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